ACP Day 2023: Reflection Prompts

Choosing a Substitute Decision-Maker

This person can be a family member, friend, child, or a faith leader for example. You should trust your substitute decision-maker to make decisions that align with your wishes, even if they would want something else for themselves.
Not everyone is comfortable in rapidly changing situations, or with making big decisions quickly. Your substitute decision maker should be comfortable in those types of situations and be able to advocate for your wishes with health care providers.
When someone knows what you value most in your life, they can make more informed decisions about your health care. For example, someone who values their independence most would probably make different care decisions than someone who most values spending quality time with their loved ones.

What Matters Most

Ex: A lazy day watching TV with my dog, enjoying dinner with my children, taking care of my garden, spending time with family and friends…
Ex: I find it difficult to disagree with people, I struggle with accepting help from others, I have a hard time adapting to change…
Ex: My family, listening to my favourite music, visits from my friends, spending time outdoors…
Ex: Going to mass every Sunday, Shabbat dinner with my children, Pipe ceremonies…
This can help guide your substitute decision-maker and allow them to prioritize what matters most to you when weighing your different care options.


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