Marjorie Goodfellow knows one thing for sure. She would prefer almost anything to a lingering life of incapacity. Thats why shes created an Advance Care Plan to help others make decisions for her if she is unable to communicate for herself.
My mother’s gradual loss of capacity due to dementia made me realize how important it is that someone else know what is important to someone in a care situation, she says. My mother had me to help her but I have no immediate family, and so I have chosen two good friends to act as Substitute Decision Makers.”
These friends are people who can make decisions on her behalf if she is unable to communicate her wishes. Shes also shared her Advance Care Plan with them so that they can feel confident making those decisions.
Ive seen a number of people die in a variety of circumstances, she says. Its helped me understand what I want and what I dont want to have happen to me. Everyone is going to reach the end of life at some point its important that we dont burden others with having to make decisions in the dark. Take the time to make a plan and share it with others.